But a lot of the things I "need to do"... I really don't. They are often simply the expectations of other people. I'm not accountable to your expectations, nor are you to mine (though I try not to have any).
Other "need to do's" are expectations I put on myself... for no good reason.
Realizing this is really freeing!
Want an example? Sure! For years I functioned as an assistant youth pastor at the church we attended. Eventually I became the youth pastor. And that was fine. But there came a time it no longer felt right. But...
Others had expectations. "You're good at this, and you're called to this. You can't walk away from it."
I had expectations. "It will look like I'm abandoning these teens. Nobody will trust a youth pastor without a church!"
But I knew I no longer belonged in that spot, so I resigned. I still work with teens and college age people. The groups is just more diverse and spread out geographically. I was always better at mentoring, and one on one stuff-- which is what I concentrate on now.
There are lots more, some big, some trivial. As Yoda said, "Size matters not!" If it's not truly something you need to do, let it go.
What are some of you "need to do's"? Are they really?
Thanks, Lana K. Moore, for the inspiration!
(Ironically, I started this just over a year ago, but it got lost on my "to do" list.)
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